POISONED GIFTS

POISONED GIFTS

Some of the greatest minds in human history killed themselves,they either had debilitating clinical depression or felt alone and cast out because of their ideas that were ahead of their time.Men like Earnest Hemingway,one of the the best writers of our time  blew his head off with a shot gun,not forgetting one of my favorite rock singer song writers  Curt Cobain who also had a soft spot for the same powerful hand gun to punch his own ticket.Allow me to use these two icons to try and understand their state of mind at that time before lights out,broad strokes of course.

In the dead of the night when the only voices you can hear are in your head a lot can be said for the trail of thoughts,well,mostly for insomniacs and trust fund brats trying to understand why they are so blessed.Curt Cobain had a heroin problem,Hemingway is said to have lived in the bottle.The question that rises from their untimely deaths is their status,these men were great,these men were famous and successful,why the need for self sabotage?.psychiatrists speak of underlying mental trauma that is usually buried deep in the subconscious,it is either experienced physically or emotionally at some point in their lives.

Hemingway lived through two world wars,saw the gruesome realities that come with conflict,he saw his friends die and nearly died himself a couple times.Cobain got hooked to smack as he tried to balance his growing fame with his laid back soft spoken demeanor,he was always a odd ball though but listening to his music now anyone can feel his soul resonating from the tremble of his voice,he captured many hearts by letting his own bleed on guitar strings.could their fame and glory have been intertwined with their demons,would they have been better off without the monkeys on their backs?

Personally,i cannot be attributed to any great feats although i consider surviving this puss oozing knock off reality a feather on my cap but our addiction to self gratification has reduced all of us to happy masked puppets always going with the flow.The odd ball phenomena is quickly being eliminated from our society as the entire world tries to fake it by #winning.

My ‘# not winning ‘ self gratifying remarks on social media drew the interest of a wonderful person though,someone  i had never spoken to before or met in my life,now anyone will tell you that if anyone shows interest especially if its a girl,we automatically switch to our dick heads for level ‘headed ‘decisions and reasoning.on this encounter though this particular person who i will call “damsel to the rescue”had been following my irregular posts on life and death and every other depressing topic in between.She insisted i call her after jotting her number down.

“hi,”

“Hi,have we met before?“my dick head wanted to know.

“I don’t think so Grundel,are you okay?”she asked sounding really concerned.

“Am good,why do you ask?”

“well i read your post and it sounds like a cry for help.Are you alone?”at this point my dick head had pushed the matter to another  more hands on department.

hehehehe am good,i just like contemplating life and everything,”

“How old are you?because this happens mostly to adults who are in their late twenties”She was a professional alright,

what happens? oh, and yeah am 27…”

“Clinical depression,its a mental,i am a social worker,we see many cases like these but since its a sort of taboo in our African culture many people live with it,some kill themselves because of it and i was just concerned for you”she sounded really nice and i didn’t want to be a dick.

The conversation took longer than expected,it gradually moved from self hate,to religion and its place in my life and at the end to how life is simple and should be taken a day at a time.

At the end of the discussion i was happy for her,the conclusion we reached was one of positive vibes and songs of rebirth but at the back of my head(not my dick head) The old man and the sea which is one of Hemingway’s best short stories was popping up,paragraph after paragraph.The fact that a total stranger was moved  enough to try and save me from myself did not move me,of course i was grateful for her kindness and humanity but i still felt this uncontrollable urge to stay my course.

Damsel to the rescue never called me again but she did make a reasonable impact in my life.I knew then as i do now that i am not alone,many of us feel out of place,this life feels like a bad dream,some sick game we have to play for a prize we cannot hold or take home.I also know now that there is a flip side to that coin,happiness can be realized,life can be sunshine and rainbows but all this has to come from within.I am still looking for that spark,my dick head has given me alternative choices but they are temporary and in some cases quite expensive so,no.We all have to talk about these things,especially African men.Kenyan men like myself who were taught to always be strong and unflinching in the way we expose our emotions.Until this evolution of how we show and embrace our emotions comes full circle,Nirvana will caress my ear drums as i gingerly caress my proverbial shot gun.

 

 

 

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SPINES OF OUR FATHERS.

SPINES OF OUR FATHERS.

My dad was my hero,ever since i can remember.He was always on the move so the few moments we got with him were cherished.Those days no matter how dysfunctional a family was, respect was always upheld for the parents.He had told me that his great grand daddy was a very harsh man,he would have them picking coffee berries at the tender age of six,and supper depended on how you did every day,

‘huyo mzee hakua mchezo’ he would chime in looking nostalgic as he reminisced on the good old days.Yeah,the days of children respecting their parents to the point of fear,but then again fear has always been a great motivator.

‘did you hate him?’i asked after giving him a moment to travel back in time,

‘At that time when i was a boy, yes.I guess we all hated him.The fact that he made us work so hard made sure that we never went hungry.Back then a man’s self respect was worth everything to him and in the case of that scaly bastard,two wives and a litter of rag rats didn’t help the situation.’He finished as he looked ahead,(our little talks always happened when he was driving.)

In a nutshell my understanding of the good old days was that every man had something to push him to greatness,there was always something,maybe a father whose shoes were always too big to fill;or a maverick youth with a chip on his shoulder and ghosts to impress,the constant always remained,as a man you had to be something.

The place for the male child was always defined from birth,you were to inherit your fathers wealth and take care of his wife and your sisters until they were married off,this was the unspoken rule,this was the sacred duty for every boy who was to be a man.The past was not kind to daughters,as most were perceived to be property,only useful for the dowry they would fetch when they came of age.For the status quo this unspoken rule meant that one sex would be deemed as more valuable than the other.The girl child was disadvantaged as per how the world viewed our way of life.

times were changing,we had to change with them.The arrogance and self entitlement of the boy child had to be checked in the new world of fairness,the girl child proved to be more disciplined and ready to learn as we were stripped of our ‘backward ways’ and given a new god to worship.We have been fumbling around in the dark ever since,one  blind man leading a horde of confused blind uneducated fools into a uncertain future.The progress for this caterpillar to morph into a butterfly has been marred by set back after set back,we gave up our fore fathers beliefs for a better world;a world were all children are equal and as per the law,require an education;a world where girls get to choose their lovers or husbands and boys can knock up any girl promise her the world and then leave in search of more sexual conquests.Its a new age of choices and privilege.

The doctrines and beliefs that held our communities together seem too far fetched to be true,we are all white people now,the caterpillar finally burst out of its cocoon and spread its wings to fly,but where to? were are we headed?

My father is long since passed,his wisdom and new age philosophies have become lost to me,just as his grandfathers became obsolete when his time came,this is a world that doesn’t wait for no man,or woman.since the unspoken rules that guided both sexes in the days of the past don’t work in this day and age we have been forced to latch onto other more sure footed peoples,the world opening up to us all like a double edge sword cutting from both sides.

I am a old dog,i neither want to or require new tricks because my master knows i am a outside pet and such as that i will stick to what is familiar,that is the one life lesson for the new age young man or woman struggling to find meaning in this fast moving world.We are all lost now,in our rush to be butterflies we forgot to ask the route we are to take so we just follow other creatures who look like us hoping they know the way.There is no matriarchy anymore,this new age world hungers,for all the old ways and beliefs,every tradition that was reinforced for thousands of years is eroded,consumed and replaced by political correctness and law suits for libel cases with faceless trolls trash talking on social media.We are all judges now,bound to this new connected world of fads and trending new age lifestyles that change faster than shit through a goose.

The one constant god in this time is money,the only language we all understand.Respect now is weighed by the zero’s in your bank account,our daughters and future wives have put easy wealth and comforts on their ability to keep these old men warm in their beds,young men revitalize the untamed older lionesses who stepped in to fill the leader roles our fathers couldn’t evolve to fill.We are all whores now,we crave a life long gone,a happiness we really do not deserve because we don’t sacrifice and work hard for it.The irony of it all is clear for all to see,its a woman’s world now,the strength that came with the man of the family has been abated,African men are becoming obsolete,hell am sure they are working on a synthetic sperm out there to get rid  of us completely .frankly speaking i don’t blame the fairer sex,i happen to think the family should be led by the woman as nature shows us time and again.some of the most successful species next to humans are led by females ie. wolves,elephants,leopards,cheetahs but naming a few .The uncertainty of this new world order has made men soft,we have been intoxicated by the thought of being pretty too.We want what the women always had,we want to be begged and courted.We want to  cry and show our emotions too,all the emotional tidbits that were subscribed for women,we want them,after all gender equality is the new way of living and everyone can be whatever they want to be.The strong spines of our fathers died with them.

 

 

OCEAN IN A DROP,

The rabbit hole i fell into led me to some big places in small crevices.The idea of a whole person with dreams and aspirations must have something or someone to believe in,this could be a code to live by or theories that explain loosely how we came to be,and our purpose on this rock.

The more learned members of our civilizations inform us about the BIG LIE,the elusive unconfirmed truth,who is really in control,

He wakes up everyday already wired for monotony,the fire that drove him to reach out slowly dying in smoldering pieces of self doubt and a dull ache in his throat.He looks through his window,out to the world he is about to slip by and evade till past noon or four.The videos he watches about solitude and getting on with fellow man insist that he should first look in the mirror and smile.See the wonder in his own eyes,believe again.

The only information to rest his weary unresponsive brain is that there is no upside,there is only the one way through the muck and shit that is everyday anecdotes of life and happiness induced by opiates.

“happiness is nothing”This new age being mumbles to himself,gritting his teeth as he walks past a family of five walking briskly in the morning cold.

He watches them in disgust,not to be confused with envy…no,he hates them because he is them,he is living under the same rules and beliefs.society deemed them all to be who they are,but for who?Did they get the lack of ambition package for self reliance and self worth?is their happiness bound to procreation and the hum drum of daily survival as sheep?

“Fuking humans”he thinks about spitting,he hates spitting.

The main reason for his existence is a mystery to him,he is riding the wave that is life with a proverbial rope tightening on his throat,the stool by his feet creaking under the weight of his unrelenting indifference to existence.

The smile he wore that day was fresh off its wrapper,in mint condition,he got a glance from a young mother and her young daughter,maybe a grin from a young lady who seemed to have squeezed in her tube dress with a gallon of lubricant.His dick taunts him to turn his head,they argue with his reason for a minute before his dark passenger interrupts with another icy grip on his persona.

“what are we doing here stupid”the cool rumble of that voice makes him sick to his stomach,so collected,so at home in his once free mind.

Putting his head down the passenger goes ahead to replay the information he gathered in relation to how meaningless existence is,

“God is dead,you know it,i know it,they all know it.Look at all these sheep,prodding along in lines of misery as they waste their incoherent lives doing nothing for the purpose of nothing…ALL THEY DO IS FUCK!!,they procreate like rats because their god told them to,they believe that bullshit.They waste their lives following rules that make them dumber and more submissive to tyranny and rule,they bend even further to get fucked…they like it…”the voice rings in his ears as he tries to remember any tune about sunshine and rainbows.

“Go ahead asshole,think happy thoughts…bury your head into the quicksand you made,to sink your numb pain. Don’t forget though,i will still be here when you surface again for another glimpse at what could be.’His voice dies out.

Time after time the truth is revealed,moments in time when everything is perfect,when he is present in that one moment,trying to savor this gift,he clings to those moments of heaven for the gloomy days when there is no control.He lives for those moments.

 

 

Avert your eyes…

The fabric that weaves our society together for hundreds of years has been pulled tight,the seams loosening and changing color.

Alighting from my usual matatu after a short uncomfortable ride that can only be described as the battle of cheap perfumes and natural odors accousting my nostrils ,i find myself alone in the real world.Every face is buried deep in small lit screens as fingers jot and slide all over the small mirrors, adding;tagging;liking;commenting and yes judging.I have wondered since that moment of absolute clarity if this is all we are becoming,Avatars of ourselves.

our minds have been overloaded with information we don’t need,i thought the world becoming a village would mean that we all got enlightened by  the knowledge we would share but damn if i ain’t wrong,i am a fellow victim by the way,i am not absolved of this sin against my self.Ever so willingly i would  make sure i keep up with the “queens of twerk world”on Instagram(and yes it is not porn,hell i could go as fare as to call it a talent);The ever changing topics on facebook;the conversations on watsapp(that never happen in real life and yes the videos on you tube.These new waters of adult hood where we make avatars that show every best part of ourselves(whether real or fictional) have guaranteed the end of all physical interactions purely for growth,as “fyebooty”would say on her short videos,”there will always be more coming” or was it cumming,i can’t be sure.

Before i digress into self gratifying explanations i must finish the morning Epiphany that was.My breath was a bit “fumey”thanks to my whiskey ways,the slight hangover warning me of the anguish to come with the raising sun,i check my phone,maybe someone liked my wacky controversial memes about religion or marriage or something,scrolling down my page i see the avatars of people i used to know,everyone always so together and dashing,either on vacation or predicting the interracial babies they would have in the near future and then the always tacky Jesus memes that can bring cash and all the treasures of the land if you just click on the tiny like button,it always feels like another profession of undying love for the super beautiful Caucasian  young man with slightly dialed up gay vibes from his cherry red lips and loose fitted gown,i mean if you want sheep to believe the sacrifice he made don’t make him look like the lead singer of one direction!.

The morning breeze and a sharp hoot from  a on coming motorbike steer me clear from the road as i head towards my prison of choice,staring at my phone as it beeps and chimes messages coming in from groups of people talking about the never ending conversations that surprisingly never happen in real life i feel a lump build in my throat,slowly redirecting the whiskey fumes that try to escape the pit of my belly,

“fucking Monday…”i mutter to myself a bit too loudly.The human in front of me turns to look at the suffering wailing pedestrian.My  eavesdropper friend is carrying digging tools,his shoes retired a few months ago but i guess he never got the memo. The tattered dirty garments that hide his shame dance in the breeze exposing a slightly discolored armpit and of course the stench that resides beneath.My once over is interrupted by his gleaming smile,his brisk walk makes it that i have to walk faster to stay beside him as i marvel at his gift of pure joy.He hums a tune i have never head before before looking at me again only this time he also notices my avatar machine as i try to keep up with the conversations on watsapp or fye’s always moving butt on Instagram,

“buda aje aje”He swings his spade a bit,as if making sure his morning greetings hit home

Poa buda,

“sasa hizo simu zenyu hamuwekagi chini”i think its rhetorical until he moves right into my personal space and smack in the middle of fye’s famous slow twerk.

“Kumbe ni porno”His smile turns into a concentrated scowl  as he tries to make sense of what he is looking at.

“sio porno buda”i try to educate and shake him off.

“ebu nione,si ako uchi huyo msichana?

“huoni amevaa nguo…hiyo hapo juu”regretting my explanation  of the technicalities that come with thongs and g-strings right after they leave my fire hazard mouth

“hako si kameraruka?He refuses to let go as we walk closer together.

My new found friend;the hooting cars;his strong scent and my now throbbing head move in tandem with my conflicted ideologies.I look at his face,all in awe of this morning’s gift of politically correct exotic dancing and realize for the millionth time how much bliss ignorance can be.My new friend pokes at my phone as if tying to get more,more…yup that’s how it starts for all of us.This disposition that is the human condition always wanting more,we can never be satisfied,the monster has to be fed.As we hide behind our online avatars and try to feed our always hungry monsters we forget how to smile.I forget how to smile.

 

 

YES,I AM A FATHER.

Continuing on with my selective amnesia when it comes to facing certain situations head on,i seem to be in the thick of it no matter what i try.Father hood is a hands on 24-7 gig,yeah…i know what most of my fellow loaded gun slingers are thinking”Aki grow atanitafuta”, well i don’t know what father son movies you have been binge watching but things have changed,a bit too fast for most of us.Kids (especially boys)have become indoctrinated to the mum is everything era,i remember when i was young,dads were super heroes to us,we didn’t care what they did or how much money they made, all that mattered was that these amazing humans were always there for us.Fast forward to today and my niggers are always presented with a blue or red pill,like Neo in the Matrix.You can stay or leave,its up to you…then the punch line, ‘i can do this by myself anyway.’

On that note i met a young lady(call it 35 years…give or take a Brazilian wig) morphed into my life sort of like that auntie who always walked in on you masturbating and told you about blindness and your hands on do it yourself experiments…yeah,that one,this lady was fun and informative.we shared a lot me and her…from loosies to locked lips.I grew from a fidgety unsure lad to terminator two in a heart beat before things began getting awkward.Don’t get me wrong,this was not a money thing no…it was more like am lost,you are lost,lets get lost together.

The most intoxicating thing about my older friend was how perfectly she had compartmentalized her entire life, like one of those build it your self shelves.This was a woman who knew when and with whom she would bear children, no,it was more like borrow sperm from.The decisiveness and math put into planning always seemed to amuse me for some reason.The fact that  she had a husband who to my knowledge didn’t mind that there was a fly in his ointment(yes…pun intended) made no sense whatsoever For the same reason she felt like she was out of control when it came to her sexuality and as a woman who married young this overwhelming feeling of fleeting youth not lived to the fullest or roads not taken created a bond that nearly cost her the sham she called a marriage.And all this because she thought she deserved better.

We all have that thought sometime,something happen to you that creates a base line for how far or low you can go before you snap.For her,being married to a premature ejaculating safety net was not enough,it might have seemed like something small at first,you know,like that weird noise your long time boyfriend makes when he is asleep or that fucked up mole she insists is a beauty spot with three pin like hairs growing out of it.Is it really about self love?,when we choose to not compromise for our children when she gets pregnant ,i mean lots of families back in the day were either planned or just decided on by parents who were looking to make strong alliances,every other party involved just had to wing it till death do them part.The ladies always got the short end of the stick as young girls were married off to be third wives or worse,this way of living created remedies to questions like love and choice but now there is so many options and roads one can take in this age of free thinking.

Now not to stray too far,my ‘young’ friend seemed to be fighting to keep something inside her alive,as complex as her situation seemed it all narrowed down to what she saw when she looked in the mirror.Shrinks tell us that our brains automatically convince us that we are more attractive than we really are as a reflection maybe its meant to make us accept ourselves more or want less from what we perceive to be perfection,like the God theory and that gnawing question about the after life.we choose what to believe to make our lives easier.Husbands and wives choose to cheat to fill a gap they feel should be filled because when they look themselves in the mirror the person staring back at them convinces them that they deserves that specific missing piece in their lives.

The last time i saw my female friend was quite cordial.To be blunt,i believe reason was at play,the adrenaline rush had abated,she did not feel young anymore.After a brief ‘its not you its me’, she was gone,gone back to horrible sex and morbid house wife duties.I am not sure if she found the perfect specimen to make a child with or if she ever cheated again on her cabbage of a husband but as i stand before my mirror butt naked i think i understand now what she felt.With a child out of wedlock and a uncertain happily ever after you start to wonder if the fairy tale ending was just hot shit served with a side of greens.

I am a father,not super dad…definitely not super dad but a father regardless.That fear of change and uncertainty is still there,half the time am just going with the flow but what grounds me to this point in my life is the fact that i know who i am and the person staring back at me on this mirror is okay with that.

 

 

The cookie crumbles…

dad leavingWaiting was my biggest enemy now,after the dust had settled and all was quiet I was left in the house listening to the voices inside my head.Alec was not present to give me his unwavering ‘you sure about that ‘ expression.I needed a game plan before my sister and Alec’s mom came back(hopefully) the fact that I was not sure if she was coming back cast a dark shadow on my conscience…or some proverbial angel with wings…ish, who rarely appeared  on my shoulder to hiss unrequited advice in my ear,

“Hey buddy “adviser was back looking battered and tired.

‘Hey conscience…wow!!!sport pesa gave you back your wings huh???’I could make out tattered grey fake looking wings dangling from his tiny back as he held onto my earlobe for support.

‘hey…I thought we decided to call me you…i am you Kyalo…this is how you appear in there…’he held out his unimpressive wings with a ‘duh’ look on his self sabotaging face…the fact that he looked like me made my few minutes to myself eerie.At least his gambling addiction set us apart.

‘so…look at him sleeping there kyalo’he turned to look at Alec.

“He looks so peaceful”

“Without a care in the world…he deserves to have both his parents kyalo”

“What about me?”yeah,sounded selfish..really selfish.

“Well my friend…say goodbye to your not giving a hoot days”

“Did you just say hoot”?I had to ask.

“Am still not tarnished completely by your toxic mind…and your unrelenting drive to self destruction!!Mr ‘always be rational’ was about to pop a vein on his self-righteous goody two shoes face.

“So…did you come here to lecture me or help me?

“Depends…”

“On what?”

“Your ability to love…”conscience knew he was paddling on shark infested waters,he moved closer to my face.

“If you can’t deal…there is no need to keep going then,I will let you activate plan B.

“Okay conscience,”

just then Alec moved,I froze,he adjusted his small frame on the chair covered by his baby blankets before settling down.I couldn’t help but stare,he looked sort of like me although i felt a sort of uncertainty towards the whole situation.I knew my life was going to change completely,i would have to stop making  random decisions;maybe learn how to live with other people without causing strife and disappearing every time a situation stopped being fun or awkward…I would have to grow up.

“This negro is going to make me someone else huh…”

“Depends…”

“On what con….you know what,al call you con from now on”Had to make it shorter…detach myself from the little guy with weird bat wings.

“whatever floats your boat kyalo,just don’t forget am still you.”

“Yeah…how can I forget that…”

“I have asked you many times to find a way to be different…”Con was talking about rainbows and sunshine again.

“Change to what con…more lovable always happy singing in the shower dandy?”

“eer no Kyalo,I want you to care…you need to get involved,all the way”

“I hear you con,so you will be riding shotgun on this one right,”

“This could all have been avoided if…”

“Don’t you dare fucking say it con…”I hated his ‘i told you so’,he seemed to enjoy it a bit too much.

It was getting late though,by my guess maybe thirty minutes past five,(couldn’t turn to look at the clock,had to keep a focused eye on the kid),my stomach reminded me it had needed some attention too by rumbling a bit too hard.

“Dammit!!!”Alec opened his eyes slowly,I ducked out of sight hoping he would take his being alone as a que to go back to sleep,well,rookie mistake.The little guy cleared his throat,it was more of a chuckle than a cough so i made an on the moment decision to make my presence known,with the unparalleled expertise of con of course,

“Pick him up before he starts to cry again”

I did without making a sound vocally or otherwise.He was too light to be a human being,fragile like flowers left in the sun and all you had to do was wait and watch them wither and die,only this son of mine seemed unnerved by his vulnerability.There was an unseen force covering this clean fragile soul from any harm.Jesus came to mind,a white guy with golden locks taking my baby from me and covering him with his white linen garment,loving him unconditionally like no human could(including his dead beat dad).

“He looks like his dad dude…”

“Yeah,the tip of his ears are darker though,he will be a bit darker than me,”that was a plus for him.being too light in Kenya,for a guy was no walk in the park if you were a sissy.

“My son will be no sissy”

“Well…will you raise him like your father did you?”con knew how to hit all the right cords

“Lets see how he looks…”

“Kyalo,it’s a bit chilly here,you can’t just start undressing a child his age “con was making a bit of sense

“What about his feet then…can I at least check those”it dawned on me that i had been speaking to myself out loud,Alec didn’t very much care for it.i could tell because he kept a sharp eye on the movements of the lunatic he had been left with.

“Well kiddo I think we should get to know each other right?He looked serious,his tiny face squared up all business like,i had to look away for a second,there was something about his pure fresh eyes that was stifling,as though he could see right through me to my deepest darkest secrets.

“Lemmie call you Mutua after my father,do you like that name?”I asked touching the tip of his tiny nose with my index finger,he didn’t flinch.

“…since we will be spending a lot of time together,I think now is the best time to come clean…its bad so don’t say anything until am done talking,cool?”He followed my movements with his eyes as i started pacing back and forth int the tiny flat.

“See,I wasnt a big fan of your early arrival,hell i voted for you to leave the island if you get my drift…”He rubed his tiny face with a clenched tiny fist.

“Yeah,I knew you would take this badly,hey but there is a silver lining buddy,i am not going anywhere now…or am i…am not sure at this time.i wish i could explain in-depth how my selfish behaviour and lack of empathy or control got me a beautiful gift…yes gift don’t give me that face,like you wouldn’t  allow me to embark on this journey with you”He squirmed a bit in his warm wrapping,looked at the ceiling as if processing what he just heard.

“Hey,this here is what life is about…okay,am still figuring that out myself but…I don’t know.

“Yes you know kyalo,”

“con,what the fuck are you still doing here!!”

“hey kyalo,just open your soul…you do know I have been locked out of there for years right…thats where am supposed to li…

“This aint about you con…and we talked about this,until you show me how to forget or embrace you stay out here with me!”con jumped off my shoulder his wings making a miserable crackle sound,he landed on the table and moved close to Mutua whose eye lids looked heavier than lead as he fought to stay awake.

“If he could see me…imagine how scared he would be…this darkness you have allowed in us is going to kill whatever chance you have to make this boy,our son…proud to call you dad.I have watched you try,fail,fight,laugh,cry and do the most stupid things imaginable to prove a point that didn’t need proving but the worst,the one thing that is killing you is this hatred you have chosen-no decided to carry for years,i am you and you are me but every time i go in there i feel like a stranger,it’s so cold…i fear it would be better for the boy if you were not in his life at all”

“what are you saying con…”

“I am you,i don’t know why you think you can hide your thoughts from me,”

“I don’t know what the fuck you talking about”con was on his canoe again,paddling towards the eye of the storm.sharks tailing him.

“No no…answer me this,after all is said and done are you happy he is here!?

“What kind of question is that con!! Of course…”

“Then whats the problem…what are you scared of…”con asked as he moved closer to a still sleeping Mutua,

“Look at him…your blood…your son…!”con finished his monologue and disappeared into thin air in front of me.

The message had been loud and clear,all I had to do was decide,i still had a small voice in my head warning me of the impending lock down,the utter lack of control.No more freedom to do what i want.The voice insisted that i was not ready to be who i was supposed to be for this boy…my boy to grow up healthy and strong.

Just then,there was a knock on the door,a timid sharp rattle.It was far from my sisters confident two tap with a try at the lock.It was time to decide,I was out of time.

 

 

 

 

 

THE ROAD THAT WAS…

The realization that you are dying doesn’t hit you all at once,it’s the little things that begin to show you how much living on this planet is taking a toll on your entire being.For instance;i could fuck for days when i was in college,it was something i was pretty proud of…well the other consenting party had to be a freak like me which was not an easy search but once i got the Bonny to my Clyde all the voices in my head could line up perfectly and sing the same husky song in unison.its the little things right?,Now i have responsibilities,deadlines and buses to catch,welcome to the real world.

Living in the moment.

This iconic self sabotage mantra,(usually yelled by a drunk post teen right before they do something stupid), resonates with most of my less thought out decisions.In essence what i was really saying is ‘fuck it’ i didn’t care for tomorrow,for as long as i can remember i was always fascinated by my more future oriented ‘friends’ who were always reminded of the big bad future ready to rape any unsuspecting  idiot twirling with their proverbial blonde braids waiting for everything to fall into place.Being a pessimist ever since i could smoke one of our neighbors cigarette butts from his dust bin,the rug of innocent carefree living had been roughly pulled from under my feet before i unhooked my first bra.A corrupted young mind without a sense of direction or a strong anchor meant that i only had mother earth for a tutor.we all know that she doesn’t give ‘timeouts’ or kiss ‘boo boos’,you screw the pooch,that’s it,you clean yourself up,get a good buzz going and take a walk, try find a way to look yourself in the mirror and still recognize who is looking back at you.

A rebel too scared to find a cause and see it through meant that losing the teen in my years was not a big deal.I don’t think it is a big deal for many guys,well maybe for the late bloomers on essentials like a deep baritone voice or a few  prickly pubes on your chin would change everything.Man boobs never helped much either,i mean,life throwing you lemons that bitter could fuck you up for years to come.Many guys back in our age of pimples and smelling like goats in heat never knew such a thing existed until you saw a guy in the shower with what looked like a set of developing cans on him swaying to every body scrub,life struggles like that made you put a few things into perspective-life lessons that slowly develop to rules one had to live by;

NUMBER ONE;The world doesn’t give a crap.

In a nutshell..your entire existence only matters if you make the impact you were made to make…by who?..I don’t know…God maybe,that all-knowing all-powerful deity that put us in this maze.Purpose plays a big role in the reason we exist,that driving force for some of us to stand out and make a significant contribution either to the people around us or to the whole world.Funny bit is that most of us are purpose less,drones programmed to obey till we die.The creator saw it fit to make us damned gods,i tried having a well-meaning discussion with my devout catholic grandfather on the pros and cons of the damned gods theory,in particular how the catholic church had always had a hand in what we call modern-day civilization,it started out innocent but got really ugly when it came to the holy trinity and the role played by Jesus’s mum.I am not scared to say that i have always had doubts,doubts about the extent to which man will go for ambition or dominance.we are damned gods alright…we tend to be self-absorbed,violent in both love and hate and treat this experience that is life as a race,where the first ones get to enjoy the spoils and the rest fish for scraps off the winners table.Well…we cant all play the leading man,or woman,genetics and upbringing find a way to classify us all as Darwin intended.

NUMBER TWO; Don’t shit where you eat.

Well,this one is self-explanatory for me,first, it acts as a literal warning,for those fellow humans who decide to party like white people or something,although these are words to live by.Know your lane,I have fucked up so many times because i thought i was someone else,you might think you are hotter than you really are or vice versa,either way if you care about your standing on the human food chain you have to find yourself,doesn’t matter how long it takes.self esteem is the one shields that protect you from all the bullshit delaying the inevitable photocopying and classification of everything that makes you.Make sure you get a good stance before holding your own,the world is a dark place…no,the world is a beautiful place,we choose to abuse and defile it at will because we believe there is something better waiting for us.Lets wait and see.

NUMBER THREE;Always be ready to die.

As cold as this sounds most of us never think about this part of life…the end,or beginning for those who have a religious safety net.Questioning the unknown has always been the proverbial thorn in my thinking cap.As we all run this short unexpected race the idea of not existing makes even the hardened of Homo sapiens cling to whatever theory (or fact,as per the household you grew up in) to the very last breath,for my religious friends the good book specifically states that if you were an ass on earth its eternal douche barbecue for you.I have always been fascinated by the rules of nature,the less brain function you have the easier your existence becomes.apparently asking questions to which no answers will ever make sense is a waste of your depleting time,either way…its always good to question everything,hell it’s why we create and destroy at will…mad scientists without an end game.We do what we do because we have to,and then we die.

NUMBER FOUR;Procreate if you can

I can only imagine what the world will look like in the year three thousand after most of the population regulating diseases are brought to heel by one amazing super drug…maybe by then after consuming so many chemicals in the food we eat and inhaling toxic fumes from our engines will have mutated us as well,all am sure of is that it will be a small boring planet if none of all the religious end of times theories never come to pass.I will be dead by then,my son will be dead too…my third or fourth generation(as per the fluctuating mortality rate of that time)will be doing what am doing right now,pushing the wheel of survival for as long as they can,maybe hoping to give life to continue my name…a name that will hold no significance to life or the reason they are fighting to pass on their genes.

In this future when  everybody is shooting blanks the girl with the working eggs and the guy with the loaded gun will be the gods of their time.They will be the only currency worth trading with.I only hope that my great great-grandson will inherit the power of my loins.Right now though,all I can do is trying to be better,leave the big picture alone because it’s not my problem,nature is calling,amid my selfish sense of self and blind ambition,i have to grow the next generation of damned gods and heirs to this big blue throne we call home.The boy will remember me when am gone,his sons and daughters will only hear stories I am okay with that because my boy will help me on my way when mistress death comes for me,i will not fight…or cry,i will embrace her, return her icy kiss  with a smile on my face.